TLDR:

1.Don’t Cheat 2.Don’t Lie 3.Walk Away

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We’re living in a new generation, and as times change, so must we adapt to the ever-growing requirements. Here you are, my friend. These three tenets will cover any question you may have regarding relationships. These can also impact your everyday life for the better. Without further ado…

1-DON’T CHEAT

Contrary to popular belief, men and women cheat. Why? If you’ve been cheated on, you know the hurt and mental trauma that can come with it. So, why would you do that to someone else? A good reasonable person wouldn’t. The first tenet is simple if it puts you in a position to cheat, don’t do it. If your emotions are too strong to control, BREAK UP with your significant other. Save both of you the heartache.

I can’t stress this enough. The points of the tenets are to be unbroken. You can bend and adapt to many things in life, but these do not change. These principles will change your relationship life for the better. That’s a promise. If you want to hold your partner to these tenets, you must follow them yourself. Hypocrisy is for the blind. You are not blind, and the first step to a happy relationship is a clear conscience.

There is no excuse for cheating. Anything your mind just thought up needs to be immediately deleted. There is no excuse. The act of adultery shows that you don’t respect that other person’s Affection, Trust, and Well-being. If you’re still making excuses then you’ve proved my point. Why would a cheater deserve a loyal person?

Break up, tell them you want to move on, no matter how awkward or painful it’ll be. Your conscience and your ex will be more grateful to you for the truth.

2-DON’T LIE

Why are you lying? You’re grown. If she does something you don’t like, tell her. Tell her the truth if you do something you know she won’t like. A lot of men catch themselves in particular scenarios because of all the lies they try to juggle. Why? Be upfront. Your choosing to lie puts you in a bad situation for no reason. Now you have to memorize the lie, you have to make sure everything matches the lie, and you have to walk on eggshells so the other person doesn’t find out. Why do all that when you could have just told the truth?

You’re putting yourself in a mentally stressed state because you don’t know how to handle confrontation. That’s a “you” issue. You need to stop that. Stop faking who you are. It’s been proven to be detrimental to your mental health. If you enjoy something and it’s not an addiction, then let it be known. Stop stifling yourself to cater to the other person.

Be upfront in what you want. Tell them what your intentions are. Even if it’s just sex, don’t lie to her. Nice guys don’t finish last. Liars do. If you’re only being nice to a girl to get sex, you’re a liar. You’re not a nice guy, and they can smell your lies from miles away. That’s why you’re in the friend zone. Because you think if you’re nice to her, she’ll sleep with you. That’s not a nice guy. That’s a creep. You’re waiting for her to have pity on you or fall for your fake BS and sleep with you. Have some Pride.

Instead, tell her what you want. If she says no, keep it moving.

3-WALK AWAY

Know when to walk away. Know when someone is not worth your time. There is nothing wrong with going out. Nothing wrong with pursuing but knowing when it is reciprocated is a must. Do not waste time on someone who does not return your time and effort. There are too many good women that are seeking good men for you to waste time on someone undeserving. The sad truth about women in this new generation is that many will end up alone. You need to understand that.

It is not your job to save every woman out there. They’re individuals with dreams and aspirations. They have preferences and standards just like you. Do you think every woman you see is worthy of that priceless thing called your love? Does she deserve your protection and provision? Probably not. So why waste time when the person is not up to standard?

It’s alright to say to each other, “We aren’t happy. Let’s move on.” Do each other a favor and end things sooner on a good note than a bitter one. Do yourself and leave the undeserving women alone. Find the one who makes you happy. You don’t owe it to anyone but yourself.

P.S-PRACTICE

Now that the three tenets are understood, let’s begin implementation: Every rule goes into every rule and works as so… You see a girl you like, you ask yourself what about her is attracting you. If you aren’t actively seeking a girlfriend then it’s sexual. If it was something on her person a unique charm then tell her. Don’t be stale.

If it’s sexual, okay, approach her as such. Don’t make any false promises. Don’t lie about yourself. Tell her a little about the real you. A little, not a lot. Be very clear in what you want. If she says no then shrug, give her a smile, and walk away, go back to what you were doing. Don’t even give her a second glance.

Notice how every rule was implemented in that simple scenario. You didn’t lie to her so there was nothing to remember to keep from her, you walked away when she didn’t give you the reciprocal energy you wanted. As for the first rule, you wouldn’t be talking to her if you were in a relationship correct?

Let’s give another scenario: Let’s say you’re in a relationship and you want to implement the Three Tenets. Are you happy? Does seeing her make you feel good? Has she ever cheated? Asking yourself these questions and more allow the tenets to filter out any bad decision. Are you Happy? Yes, then keep working towards the relationship. Do you dread seeing her? Yes, walk away. Has she ever cheated? Yes, Walk away. Have you ever cheated? Yes, tell her if you haven’t already and end the relationship as amicable as possible. It’s indicative that you hold yourself and others to these standards for true happiness.

Life is failure and success. Men have always experienced the hardships of life, but we continue to succeed. Do not let any bitter and resentful person tell you otherwise. Society is built on the dreams and aspirations of men. We stand in awe of those that mark their name in history and revere them like heroes, but here we are. Through the amazing days, and days that make us want to end it.

But there is something extraordinary about looking inwards. Something unique about acknowledging what you want and telling yourself you can have it. You have to work for it. It means your dreams are possible. You work on those flaws while bettering yourself mentally and physically. Become a desired man. Even then, life won’t end. It never ends when we succeed. We keep growing more and more.